Fights are not bad; they can save your relationship.

On the art of fight

Fights suck. I know. But I can also vouch for the fact that if you learn how to fight well, you can turn your clashes into true connections that last a lifetime.

Jordan Peterson quotes “you can either have 1 breakup or a 1000 fights.” My interpretation of this is simple - you can either take the short term easy path of breaking up but which is harder in the long term OR you can take the short term pain of working through the conflict in your relationship to enjoy the benefits of a solid relationship in the long term. You pick.

I of course do not mean this for relationships or dynamics that are absolutely incompatible and beyond repair. I do not wish you the relentless pain of banging your head on a wall to fix a puzzle whose missing pieces are just not present in that box.

I ask you to recognize the relationships (romantic/friendships, familial etc.) that have the basics right and that have the potential to turn into something solid and sustainable in the long term. I ask you to take those equations, channelize your energy into those relationships, and identify the missing links, the missing puzzle pieces. Do not shy away from trying to fix those puzzle pieces, do not brush them under the rug. Take it and work through it with the other human, the other half of this equation.

A relationship is like a puzzle and every fight reveals to you a missing piece. Learn the art of fighting right, the art of REPAIR and you will soon have for yourself a relationship that is capable of weathering any storms coming its way.

I am not saying after this 90 minute masterclass, you are never going to have a fight. I am saying that after learning the Art of Fight, you will be equipped with a toolkit to manage your own emotions as well as communicate with your other half of the equation with complete emotional safety to enjoy the reaps of a rock solid relationship, your very own version of paradise :)

-Ipsita